What if people really told the truth in those holiday letters? How about having them do a stream of consciousness that really reflects the events of the past year? Let’s face it. Life has its downs as well as its ups. Some of these letters are so full of wonderful “accomplishments” of the writer’s family members that they make the rest of us “ordinary” people feel like losers. I guess, though, it’s not reasonable to expect people to air their dirty linen to friends and acquaintances. We do like to put our best foot forward to others. If we’ve got problems or conflicts within ourselves or our families, other people really shouldn’t be bothered with them, unless, of course, we’re looking for solutions or sympathy. However, where is that line where our representations of ourselves and our family passes the limit of what is reasonably in touch with reality? Keeping ourselves grounded in reality is difficult enough, without our trying to keep up an image to others that is false. So if you’re going to write a holiday letter to let others know what’s been going on with your family, what might be the best approach? Sorry, I don’t have an answer at this moment; but whatever you write , it should be reasonably be grounded in reality; and it should not be such that anyone reading it will feel that you’re doing so much better than they are that they feel bad about themselves.