Part 4 – How to Stop an Argument
Posted by David—
“Look! If you-know-who was such a great president, then why…”
“You see, it’s clear that the earth is 4.5 billion years old…”
“Come on, you know it’s on Route 441 rather than HWY 28, we need to get off at the next exit not this one…”
Stop for a moment and seriously consider losing the battle. Try submitting to your opponent for a moment and see what happens. If you’re not 100% certain or at least 100% riding on faith in your perspective, then submit to your opponent. If you are certain, then there’s no need to argue. Just say the truth with authority and move on.
“I never thought about it that way.”
“I suppose that I’m basing my facts on ideas which I’m really not all that certain about.”
“Okay, let’s try your way.”
But be honest with your statements. If you say you’ll think about it, really do take the information and digest it. The bomb will be diffused. See where it takes you.
Please note that I’m not talking about capitulation here. It’s not really possible to compromise truth. Don’t water-down your belief here. Just be humble where humility is appropriate. This form of submission is like saying, “Wow, the universe is an amazing, complex, yet simple, and gloriously beautiful place, more so that I can imagine. I’ve been wrong before. I could be wrong this time.”
And if you find out you were right all along, you can have a fight—a fight with yourself. Fight very hard to not let yourself even think, “I told you so.”
If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic.